#10 - Attachment Styles and Burdened Relationships

Max and Liana really dive deep into attachment trauma and the ways we can heal it with awareness.  Max goes right into it by giving a great overview of the different attachment styles and their effects on our relationships.  He ties his learnings and personal experience and shares how he was able to bring a repair to his system.  Liana talks about burdened and unburdened attachments and makes a pretty good case for the role society has in the way we form and maintain our important relationships.  She brings to the table her perspective as a parent as well as gives an account of the harmful birthing practices.  Max brings fascinating Ideal Parent Figure therapy and outlines conditions necessary for forming a healthy secure attachment.  They conclude this episode by sharing several resources they found helpful on their journeys in healing their attachment wounds.

Resources:

Attached: Are you Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure? How the Science of Adult Attachment Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love  
by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A. 

Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair by Daniel P. Brown and David S. Elliott

Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing 
by Peter A Levine and Maddie Kline

How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
by Dr. Nicole LePera

Discovering the Inner Mother: A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power 
by Bethany Webster 

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents 
by Lindsay C. Gibson 

Chapters

• 1:24 4 attachment types rundown
• 13:32 Traumatic absence of care
• 18:32 Burdened parenting
• 25:10 Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) therapy
• 31:46 How birthing practices can damage relationships
• 39:55 Relational nature of healing work
• 45:30 Resources for attachment repair